The biggest reframe is that your life can't be perfectly planned, that there isn't just one solution to your life, and that that's a good thing.

The reframe for the question "What do you want to be when you grow up?" is this: "Who or what do you want to grow into?" Life is all about growth and change. It's not static. It's not about some destination. It's not about answering the question once and for all and then it's all done. Even those who checked a box for doctor, lawyer, or engineer. These are just vague directions on a life path.

-- <Designing your life>